One of the fears I’ve had throughout my life (aside from heights) is that my children, whenever I got around to having them, would not be readers. I’ve always been one. If you’ve read my bio on the About page, you’d see that the best punishment I could have received as a child was to be grounded to my room, because it meant uninterrupted reading time.
My parents should have been suspicious when I never complained.
So now I have two children, both boys, ages 7½ and 6½. Was my fear unfounded?
Yes. At least for my older son. Of that I’m sure. But I’ll get back to him in a sec.
While reading about kids reading, I stumbled upon an article in the Washington Post by Valerie Strauss about a teacher named Donalyn Miller, “The Book Whisperer.” She’s helped teach how to make kids lifelong readers, and in her latest book co-authored with veteran teacher Susan Kelley, “Reading in the Wild: The Book Whisperer’s Keys to Cultivating Lifelong Reading Habits,” she discusses five traits that lifelong readers have…traits you can cultivate in your young children. What I found so interesting about this is my older son is exhibiting ALL five traits — at age 7½! Woot!
So what are they?
- Dedicate time to read. Lifelong readers read when they can — while waiting, when bored, etc. (Son #1 takes a book with him almost everywhere. He reads in the car, while waiting for the doctor, while his brother does tae kwon do — he even begs to ride in the shopping cart so he can read while I breeze through Target.)
- Learn to pick your reading material. Children who learn how to pick books based on interest, skill level, and needs are set to be readers for life. (We’ve been guiding #1 for the most part, but he’s determined to get through the current series he’s reading — more on that below — and wants to read more of the same.)
- Talk about books and reading. Create a reading community. Talk about books. Read in front of your children. They’re more inclined to read if surrounded by readers. (We talk about reading books, writing books — my older son is forever asking me, “Mom, have you finished your book yet?” — as well as what makes stories good/bad/interesting/boring, and what we like and dislike in what we read.)
- Have future reading plans. Avid readers plan their next book (TBR pile, anyone?). They look forward to the next book in a series or one by their favorite author. (Son #1 is currently making his way through Harry Potter. He just finished book 3 and started book 4 last night. He’s determined to finish the series by the end of the year — but his dad and I need to determine whether the material will be too mature for him. In any case, he’s got his own TBR pile of Minecraft stories and other science fiction-y stuff.)
- Show preferences. While reading widely and experiencing many different genres is good, strong readers have a distinct preference in terms of literary tastes, styles, topics, and authors. (He definitely has that. He gravitates towards fictional stories about his favorite video games, science fiction-type stories, and other adventure-y books.)
Son #1 is clearly a reader. There’s no doubt in my mind. And I think he will be for life. What fascinates me is that he started off rather slowly. Many kids can read by age 3 nowadays, at least a little bit, but we didn’t rush him…he learned in kindergarten, but he learned quickly, largely on his own. By the end of kindergarten, he was reading small chapter books. Throughout first grade, he progressed to longer and more difficult books (without ANY pictures), and now, just starting second grade, he’s plowing his way through Harry Potter. To me, that’s a huge progression in reading — from zero to middle grade fiction — over a two-year period. And he understands what he’s reading.
It makes my heart burst with pride that he loves to read. He may gripe and groan when I tell him no video games or TV, but if he can’t do that and doesn’t want to play with his brother, he’ll curl up in a chair and just…well…read. For hours.
As for son #2…well, the jury is still out. He’s learning to read more slowly than #1 did. As he starts 1st grade, he’s a marginal reader. But like #1, #2 is picking it up pretty quickly. What I do see in him right now is a desire to be part of the family reading community. Even if he can’t completely make out all the words. For example, he’s incredibly jealous of #1 reading Harry Potter (and the discussions we have about it around the dinner table), so #2 has decided that HIS first chapter book will be Harry Potter, too (mind you, he’s still on a “Green Eggs and Ham” reading level). He proudly tells me he’s “almost on chapter 9.” I’m sure he’s not really reading much, and likely understanding nothing, but right now, that doesn’t matter.
What does is his desire to be a part of the family readership, sitting on a chair, legs thrown over the side, book in his lap, looking intently at pages covered with teeny, tiny words. He’s learning as #1 did that there are stories behind all those words, and if he practices, he can decipher them for himself. Entertain himself. Make himself laugh (especially reading Elephant and Piggie books by Mo Willems).
For both boys, I don’t care much what they read. They’ve read non-fiction, picture books, magazine articles in “Entertainment Weekly” about the upcoming Star Wars movie, and laughed hysterically over Calvin and Hobbes (to the point that #1 was in such a fit of giggles he couldn’t read to #2 anymore).
I also don’t bat an eye when they say they want books. Now sometimes I have to direct them to the right kind of book, but we’re happy to take a trip to Barnes and Noble and spend an hour in the children’s section. I’m sure the library would be a more economical option for us, but my older son is already proving that he’ll read a book multiple times. Might as well make it available to him. And of course, what the older brother reads, the younger brother wants to read, too. Especially if it’s about Minecraft. When he’s ready, of course (or so he’s told us).
As the days pass, I worry less and less about the boys being readers. Naturally, they’re still very much preoccupied with Terraria and Angry Birds Transformers and football and friends. They’re boys. I expect that.
But I love seeing them, heads bent over a book, as I listen to the pages whooshing. It’s eye candy and music to my ears.
Schedule Update: Finishing the Damn Book
It’s time for a schedule update! Two weeks ago, I tapped out my schedule to get stuff done.
So here’s what happened: Nothing. Nada. Zip. Absolutely no writing (or critiquing) has happened in the past two weeks. I’ve been consumed with new school craziness, trying to find a new “normal” with a different school schedule and the boys in two different, non-back-to-back tae kwon do classes, and surviving a home remodeling project (goodbye yucky carpet, hello wood floors. And a new door. Two, actually).
Status: I’m behind. *sigh*
Analysis: I’m pushing the whole thing back two weeks. Next week is my new start date. We have one more set of doors going in this Friday (our house is 12 years old and the Arizona sun bakes the heck out of pretty much everything…our doors have shrunk so much you can see light under the door AND under the threshold. That lets scorpions in. Need I say more?). I also have painting that needs to be completed on all the new trim where we had the floors put in. I’m still working my way through a stack of mail and other papers that have landed on my desk in the last two months, and then there’s the normal business of life.
On a bright note, the tornado that has been my existence the last several weeks seems to be slowing down to a gentle breeze. Here’s to lots of writing days ahead. Starting next week, of course.