Jilly: Is It Better To Be Brave Than Kind?

Is It Better To Be Brave Than Kind?Women prefer bravery, courage and a willingness to take risks rather than kindness and altruism in their partners.

Do you agree?

The above statement is a direct quote from an academic paper about online dating, written by Professor Khalid Khan of Barts and the London School of Medicine and Sameer Chaudhry of the University of North Texas, published in the Journal of Evidence Based Medicine. I read about the paper in an article online this week and thought it sounded like story gold, so I took a closer look.

The paper’s stated objective is: to determine, for people seeking a date online, what activities and behaviours have an effect on the chances of converting electronic communication into a face-to-face meeting.

Or to paraphrase, how to win at online dating.

And since success at the preliminary stages of online dating is all about establishing a character Continue reading

Jilly: Smile!

Smile!Look at the image to your left. How does it make you feel?

With luck, the smiley lady in the picture will have made you smile in return, because smiling is reflexive – we instinctively mirror other people’s smiles as a way to test how genuine we think they are. If you did smile, the simple act of doing so should have made you feel just a little bit better than you did a minute ago. Even better, it should have triggered some microscopic internal changes that should have decreased your stress levels and might even help you to live a little longer. And to anyone watching, you should immediately have appeared better-looking and more competent.

That’s a lotta good stuff from a simple twitch of a few facial muscles.

I started to think about Continue reading