Elizabeth: Flourishing

My climbing roses are definitely flourishing

In her last post, Michille wrote about languishing, that “somewhat joyless and aimless feeling” that that last year or so has engendered.  When I saw a story the New York Times today about flourishing, how to turn that languishing feeling around, I couldn’t help but click and read more for some hints on how to improve my own mood and creativity.

Like any other attempt at change, the first step to get from languishing to flourishing is to figure out exactly how you’re currently feeling.  Sounds easy, but sometimes that line between tired, sick, depressed, purposeless, or something else all together can be hard to define.  Fortunately, the article had a link to a 10-question quiz to help you figure out where you stand.  Although finding out you have a higher or lower score than the general public might not be particularly helpful, the the questions asked could provide a good starting point for changes you might want to consider making in order to get from languishing to flourishing.

Community

Just like in a satisfying story, a strong sense of community is key.  Whether you spent your pandemic sheltering at home alone, with friends, or with family, you’re probably ready for a change of pace.  Reaching out to others, either live and in person (following health guidance) or via phone/video, can be a definite boost.  I know the weekly calls I have with distant family members make a definite difference in how I’m feeling, and video-chatting with the other Eight Ladies the other day was a definite mental boost.  Even those of us who are confirmed introverts can benefit from personal connections from time to time.

If your community consists of cats or dogs, that’s just fine.  There’s nothing like spending some quality time with a furry friend who loves you unconditionally to make a day seem brighter.  If that time includes a walk or playing in the park, the exercise will give you an extra mental boost.  Yay!

Purpose

Your hero and heroine have goals and it helps if you do to.  Having something you’re striving to accomplish can alleviate that “there’s nothing I want to do” feeling.  I remember how boring summer school vacations used to feel when there was nothing in particular to do (or when the library was closed) and how much more fun they were when my friend and I were building a clubhouse or working on art projects.  It doesn’t matter if your goal is something big like “I’m going to finish the draft of this book by July” or something smaller like “I’m going to weed the flower beds”, the important part is to have something to aim for.

According to any number of studies, if those goals you have include doing something that helps other people–like volunteering at a food bank or helping out a neighbor–you are likely to get an extra mental and emotional boost.  Double win!

Progress

Whatever your goals are, it’s important to recognize the progress you make.  Whether it’s checking items off a ToDo list, celebrating when you finish a chapter, or stepping back and admiring your newly weeded flower beds, consciously acknowledging your accomplishments can definitely boost your mood.  When I’m working on a story, I have a progress jar where I collect little notes about progress I’ve made–whether finishing a chapter or writing a really great line.  When I’m feeling discouraged, I can get a mental boost by pulling random notes from the jar and reminding myself about the progress I’ve made.  Today my progress was finishing a project at work, writing this blog post, and spending 25 minutes on the elliptical.  I may not be flourishing quite like my climbing roses that are attempting to take over the side of the house, but I’m making my own kind of progress and feeling successful.

Flourishing and renewed creativity are within reach; I’m sure of it.

Here’s hoping you’re flourishing (or at least on your way) too.

Feel free to comment with any suggestions to add to the list above or links to share that gave you a boost of happy this week.

8 thoughts on “Elizabeth: Flourishing

  1. Your roses certainly are flourishing! What a wall of beauty!

    For me, Charli (one of the many, many cats we have this year) gets her stitches out tomorrow or the next day, I hope.It’s been a five-day weekend here because of holidays, but that doesn’t make much of a difference on our farm — every day brings things that must be done.

    Also, the daffodils and hyacinths are blooming here. When I open the window, I can smell the hyacinths, and it’s such a nice feeling! A really great payback for spendin five minutes to get some bulbs in the ground.

    • Michaeline, I’m guessing those roses have burrowed into the water system or something. They grow ridiculously fast, without any attention on my part. My only job is to cut them back on a regular basis so they don’t take over the house. Yay for your hyacinths. I never remember to plant bulbs until it is too late.

      As for your cat, hope her stich-removal is painless and trouble-free. I definitely miss having cats around the house (though not the ensuing cat hair).

  2. I saw this article, too. I liked the gratitude part (come up with 5 things you’re thankful for) and finding purpose in everyday routines. I think I’m somewhere between languishing and flourishing right now.

    • Michille, glad you found some things from the article that you liked and that hopefully will be of help.

      My position on the languishing-flourishing scale tends to fluctuate day to day. It is beautiful out today, not to hot, not to cold, so I’m in a good place right now. Of course, as soon as I get back to clearing out my work inbox, that may change.

    • That’s great, Jeanne. Judging by the wonderful pictures you post on FB, you’re getting to spend some quality time outside. I did spend an hour or so working in the garden yesterday and definitely felt the better for it (well, except for those mosquito bites).

  3. I took the little quiz, and the NYT didn’t give me my results! When I got to the end, the “Results” box was grayed out. I did NOT flourish as a result!

    Otherwise, though, I’d say I am flourishing. And your roses are gorgeous. We have a rose bush in our backyard that looks good until about mid-June. And then it decides to look all pathetic and wimpy, maybe in the hope that we’ll become better gardeners. So far, not happening.

    • Sorry the quiz withheld your results, but glad you are flourishing regardless.

      My over-abundant rose bushes not only smell good and are pretty to look at, but they have a tendency to attack unwary visitors. It’s one way to keep away those strangers trying to sell me something.

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