After twelve weeks of being cooped up in my house, I’ve been giving some thought to doing a Marie Kondo on my life: clearing out the things that don’t bring me joy. Although my house could probably use some de-cluttering (especially the basement and the kitchen junk drawers), I’ve been focusing more on streamlining my emotional life, asking myself what I want from this last quarter of my time on Earth and what is getting in the way of my achieving that.
So what do I want? Well, in no particular order:
- I want to return to Europe another time or two. I’d like to see something of Spain and Italy, for sure, but those trips are on hold at least until there’s a vaccine that makes air travel safe again.
- I want to tell more stories.
- I want to continue learning to write better.
- I want to learn more about local flora and fauna.
- I want spend more time hiking, preferably with a canine buddy.
- I want to read a bunch of books I never seem to have time for.
- I want to see more movies (versus TV shows).
- I want to see friends again. (I suspect that shortfall may be at the root of my malaise but there’s not much to be done about it for now.)
What would I like to do less of?
- I’d like to cook less.
- I’d like to spend less time doing book marketing related activities.
- I’d like to spend less time on life administration–sending in claim forms and arguing with my insurance company about whether I need to do a telehealth well-visit. (Yes, I get that Medicare pays you to make me waste an hour chatting with someone about my perfectly fine health but I don’t want to.)
More than anything, I’d like to spend less time “channel surfing” available activities. When I do get some free time, I spend so much time dithering, trying to choose what to do next, that it all goes to waste.
Maybe if I’m clearer about which activities will leave me feeling satisfied instead of frustrated I can make better use of my time.
What about you? What brings you joy? And what would you like to do less of?