Many writers have trouble sitting down to write, or if they do sit down, they can’t produce anything. They’re distracted by Facebook or online news or games. Some writers are too stressed by work, school, or family obligations even to sit down. These problems are real and difficult to overcome.
Rosanne Bane researches the resistance writers can have in getting down to work, from procrastination to perfectionism and everything in between. She uses findings from neuroscience to explain these issues and offers science-backed fixes to common problems for writers. Fantastic, right?
One of her recent articles urged writers to respect their resistance to writing. She explains it by first describing a psychiatric event. In 1906, Aimee (not her real name) was under the care of Dr. Edouard Claparède. She had a brain injury that made it impossible to form new memories. Every time Dr. Claparède saw Aimee, he had to re-introduce himself to her.
One day Claparède put a pin between the fingers of his right hand, so that when he introduced himself and shook hands with Aimee, she received a little stab in the palm of her hand. The next time they had an appointment, Aimee didn’t remember him or the incident, but she refused to shake hands, although she had never refused to do so before and couldn’t explain why she was unwilling now.
And here’s the science. We have (at least) two memory systems: one that’s available to conscious recollection, and one that we don’t have conscious access to. We don’t need a logical reason or conscious awareness of a threat to trigger the limbic brain and feel resistant. That’s the beauty of resistance. We can protect ourselves from threats we’re not consciously aware of. That’s what Aimee was doing.
When we see that we’re distracting ourselves with other activities, we don’t have to know why we’re doing it—we just have to recognize that we’re doing it so we can recognize what might trigger distraction. Recall what you were doing before you followed a distraction. Are you resisting a particular writing project? Are you more susceptible to distractions at a particular time of day? Do certain people or situations lead you into distraction? Examine what distracts you. Electronic pasttimes? Household tasks? Outdoor activities? Friends or family? At what times are you most likely to get distracted? What about if you’re hungry or tired?
Knowing what distracts you doesn’t mean you can never do the laundry or use your phone again. But you need to examine how you spend your time. Is the activity you’re doing right now a distraction? Or an intended task? Had you meant to write, but ended up picking up the kids’ toys?
The problem is that distraction can make us feel good about not writing. Unlike writer’s block, where we beat ourselves up about not writing, a distraction gives us something pleasant to do (at least more pleasant than trying to write). Electronic distractions also give us a shot of dopamine every time we get new input, which is why social media, games, and apps are so addictive.
Bane urges writers to respect the wisdom of resistance by not disrespecting yourself. Don’t say, “This is stupid.” Or “I’m just being lazy and undisciplined.” Or “I must not have what it takes.” Listen to your resistance without judgment. Ask yourself:
- What is this resistance telling me?
- What do I need?
- What’s missing (time, support, information)?
- What am I truly afraid of?
- What would reassure me?
- How can I minimize the risk?
- What small step can I take to move forward?
When you know the answers to those questions, your resistance to writing is likely to decrease.
Would Banes’s suggestions work for you? I think they’d work for me. I’m trying them!